Book Title: Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed

Subtitle: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role

Author: Rebecca C Mandeville MFT

Book Description: In this insightful and informative introductory guide, the author defines and describes what she named (for research purposes) Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) and offers help and hope for adults struggling in the 'family scapegoat' role.

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Were you bullied or rejected by a parent, sibling, or other relative growing up? Have you ever been the target of a ‘smear’ campaign by immediate or extended family and been left feeling frustrated and confused? Have you tried to reach out for help and support and been told, “Just get over it, it’s your family, it can’t be that bad”?

In this comprehensive introductory guide, an internationally recognized Family Systems expert provides a means of understanding why dysfunctional families scapegoat one of their own and helps you to release the painful, damaging ‘scapegoat story’ for good. The author explores the roots of family scapegoat dynamics and how the scapegoated adult survivor can free themselves from ‘false family narratives‘ and become the author of their own lives. Via psycho-education, self-assessment tools, and practical steps and strategies, she describes a way out of the harmful ‘scapegoat trap‘ for those who find themselves ‘rejected, shamed, and blamed’ by their own family. In these pages you’ll discover:

– How to determine if you’re the ‘family scapegoat’
– Why scapegoated individuals have difficulty finding help
– How complex trauma (C-PTSD), and ‘toxic shame’ impede recovery
– Why the family ‘Empath’ can end up scapegoated
– How to establish boundaries if your trauma response is ‘fawning’
– How to recognize false family narratives
– How to recover and realign with your ‘true self’

This life is the only one you’ll have, and your story is precious and unique. If you’re struggling to understand family scapegoat dynamics and want to recover and reclaim your ‘true self’ identity, this book’s for you.

– FSA Self-Assessment is included but should not be used for diagnostic purposes. 

– Clinicians and Coaches may also find this introductory book helpful. Please read the ‘Afterword’ for more information and resources.

– Fans of books about Narcissistic Abuse; Narcissistic Families; Complex Trauma (C-PTSD); Dysfunctional Family Dynamics; Multigenerational Trauma; Empaths; (the) Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse may resonate with this book.


Rebecca C Mandeville MFT


Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed Copyright © 2020 by Rebecca C. Mandeville. All Rights Reserved.


Self-help, personal development & practical advice


Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed
Rebecca C Mandeville MFT

Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed Copyright © 2020 by Rebecca C. Mandeville. All Rights Reserved.

Primary Subject
Self-help, personal development & practical advice
Additional Subject(s)
Sociology: family & relationships, Self-help, personal development & practical advice, Child abuse, Trauma & shock
Publication Date
August 18, 2020
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